Whine With Wine: Unfiltered "GIRL TALK"
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Speaker 1
Welcome to make monthly series Whine With Wine imagined being a fly on the wall at a winery as a group of women explore their inner thoughts with no filter. This is exactly what we do in our series. Whine with wine. This is girl talk. That is not for those with delicate ears. If you're easily offended or have kids listening with you, please turn off this podcast right now for everyone else. Let me transport you to a bid in wonderland that explores the crazy things that happened in modern relationships. Let's get started.
Speaker 2
Yeah,
Speaker 3
so tonight is our first segment of wine with wines where we get together as women and we drank wine and we talk about relationship stuff today. We're at Farinas winery in. Great, fine. And we're drinking some wine and we're going to talk some shit. So let's roll. So today I'm with hope and Micah and tell us your relationship status. Ladies. Oh, single, single hocking. His own buddies. Pretty serious. Like recently single, but now maybe off the market. Yeah. Yeah. I dated somebody for awhile in the process of getting divorced. So fun. Two years. Oh, divorce process is for. Oh my gosh, is it I have you mediation tomorrow? Eight years. Eight divorce process. Oh, don't, you're not giving me much hope. I have a date. You've been getting divorced for eight years. Eight years. Holy Shit. How long were you married to? Oh, divorce proceeds four times. He refuses to sign the papers. Well mine was the one that filed, but because I was busy with kids, so we both want to be divorced. It's just we don't agree on custody
Speaker 4
and mine once to just drag it out.
Speaker 3
That's what it seems like for me. Just to torture you.
Speaker 4
Um, I think it's controlled. Yeah. Yeah. So I cannot move technically. Move on. He has a girlfriend. We're fine. We're good. Cool. Parents. He will not, he will not sign the papers. Wow. So how do you cope with that? Am I really try not to think about it, but it does put a damper on relationships because there is still that lingering.
Speaker 3
The stress of it too. Like anytime I have to deal with stuff I get very anxious and stressed out, but I have a protective order against mine. So tomorrow's like really anxious for me because I haven't seen him in a year and a half. And you have to see him. You have to be in his presence tomorrow. Yeah. Does he see your children a supervised at a courthouse for a, a couple times a month? Yeah. So that's my fun stuff. I'll try to
Speaker 4
men. It's hard is people don't know until they go through it. They don't, they don't know how hard it is. No,
Speaker 3
that's what I tell my friends that have issues. I'm like, they'll fight, just take it to go. Like it hasn't done anything. Totally crazy. Tell take one for the team. Yeah, that's like minded. Something crazy. Like he'd tried to cheat on me and all this stuff and I was like, okay, we're going to counseling, we're going to work on this. And then he did something and I was like, nope. Nope, get out. Kids can't be around, you know, it's done. There's no going back from that. And
Speaker 4
mine is kind of the same. But he refuses to um, think that he's done anything. Yeah. I mean, I guess that's normal, but the courts also will not. Um, because there's a child involved they will not grant any forgiveness in. Oh Hey, let's just go ahead and put it through. So it's a hard battle.
Speaker 3
Definitely right there with you as well. Cheers to dealing with real life shit right now. Yeah. It should be lightened. The mood. Well, the wine has arrived so that we can cope with that little issue. Well, you both brought up dating post-divorce and sped or post post breakup because neither of you have gotten that closure yet. So how do you tell somebody that you're still in that process when you first start dating them? Is that something that you have like a formula for that works for you?
Speaker 4
It's actually been kind of difficult because you don't know when's the right time to say it. I mean I've been separated for so long that I don't think I married him. He refuses to sign the papers. I don't think I'm doing anything and that is against marriage, but it is, it is a difficult situation and it's not a fun one to talk about. I mean, you have to use a lot of treats and say, I really like you, but here's what's happening.
Speaker 3
Wow. I'm just kind of just throw right out there because I'm just like, I don't want to waste my time. My children are young for me to get interested in a guy. And then if he has an issue with it, then it's just like, well, there goes, wasted
Speaker 4
well and I'm not, I don't date a lot. So, um, the people that I do see, they do they already know the situation? Yeah. Um, I have found that I, a lot of people that I knew in my past are coming back.
Speaker 3
Oh, interesting.
Speaker 4
Kind of festive, but they already kind of knew what is happening and they know I have kids say no. And that part is kind of a, hey, a detail. It's not a deal breaker, it's just, hey, this is what's, this is what it is.
Speaker 3
Yeah. So you found the. Most people are really accepting of it, especially because it's not like you're not signing the papers, you're divorced in your heart.
Speaker 4
Right. And I think the other part is they were grown, now we, everyone has a past, so we can't really judge people on their past, even if it's still coming into their future. Um, for whatever reason that it is.
Speaker 3
Yeah. Because they're coming in with their own stuff too. So we all have acceptance and understanding of whatever stuff people are bringing in.
Speaker 4
Yeah. I think that I think we have and I think I have to remember that also if I'm dating someone who, who has a past, I might not like because they, I wasn't there and it had nothing to do with you and I have to remember that too.
Speaker 3
Yeah. Yeah. I had to get into dating to get to know anybody down here because I just moved down to Texas from Kansas City because of my divorce. So I was like, okay, now I have no friends and my mom was the one that pushed me to start getting on OK cupid and stuff like that. So that's still, I didn't have friends so that I haven't done any online dating. Oh, I after just scared once I've got a friend based, I was like, okay, I'm done with this. Like I'm good. But that's how friends from there. Yeah, that's how I met. Like basically I got my job that I have, how I know Tara because I went on a date with a guy from tinder and went to beer, kickball and became friends with all these people. Yeah, I didn't know that. Cool. So yeah, also I do beer, kickball.
Speaker 3
That's how I meet people other ways. So how did you even get into beer? Kickball? Like where did you find that? Tinder. I was talking to a guy that you, her, your kickball on tinder don't find you don't like get some, you get beer, kickball. Like that's the new thing. I guess I was just like talking to this guy and he was just like, Hey I'm look at this, does this sound interesting? I do this. And I was like, well I don't really like beer but I'll give it a try. Of course the first day I go there like new people have to chug a beer of course. And I was like, alright, I'll try anything. And then you liked the taste better. Is that your person? No, no, no, like that guy's way gone.
Speaker 5
I still go to kickball league by, but I still do it. Like I went to a Thanksgiving beard, kickball gathering one time. It was just like, I, I need to go to beer, kickball. I like being here. I'll let you know
Speaker 3
in the fall if I think they're going to keep doing it. It's been going on for seven years, but she's like, I might have to end it. And we're like, no. Well maybe you should start at your own leisure. Maybe I should. Now y'all have a purpose. You never knew that you were going to come together. You have to, you have to hold beer the whole time you play. Okay, awesome. Yeah. And then we go to awesome food truck afterwards. So I mean, I, I pretty much could do that. I mean, can you do that and not run. You have to run with your beer. You could be. Or you can jog lightly I think. Yeah. So I don't care if I get unlimited quickly, there's a couple of kegs there and as much beer as you want to drink, festive. I mean people should know this. Everybody. So where to find it though, because you found it on tinder. Like where? Where does anyone else find it? Okay, Paul, if you want to check it out and sign up. It's Faca.net. [inaudible] dot net. Let people. FACA prepares F A, c, k a nest. Alright. So you came so prepared. Oh sure. Yeah. Yeah. Just like I'm prepared for everything in my life. I went to my best friend's wedding maid of honor and I just chugged half a bottle of champaign and then gave my speech. Was it good?
Speaker 5
I don't remember. I had half a bottle. No, I don't know. I don't think so. This isn't viral on Youtube? No, it was bad. Bad. I mean I haven't seen you on youtube so I'll look. I had to be careful because she's like
Speaker 3
um, don't bring up this point. Um, because there's like family that might be like, I was like, oh,
Speaker 5
but, but tabby, the first thing I ever said to you was me yelling across like a street. Are you a lesbian friend at the time? Humped you were. I mean, that is a good story. Middle Status, the kind of story you bring up at a wedding. I reframed, I was good, but
Speaker 3
I was dragged off the dance floor with like I was dancing with the groom and we were passing back and forth. A bottle of Captain Morgan. Yeah. Did you try to hunt him?
Speaker 5
No, we were, we were having a good old time. You bring the condition. There was no, no, no, there was no, we were just dancing and drinking and my grandma, my grandma was here was like, I need to go home. Hope. And I'm like, but I'm drinking with my friends. So you drove your grandma home drunk? No, she drove me. Oh, they knew what they were getting into my whole life.
Speaker 3
I had other family there. They all went home and left. Grandmother take care of drunk and me. Oh, that's shit. You know, your grandma really loves when she cleans up your vomit after you've been puking whiskey. I'm, I'm very, uh, usually. Usually if there was an incident recently. Well, so I want to know more about your experience with tinder. Any, uh, any funny stories from that I would like to know to. Oh, I don't, I don't even know I've been ghosted. Do you guys know that show? Yep. Yep. I've, I've had that happen. I've done it because it got awkward. Been the ghosty and the ghost stir stir. Yeah. I was just like, okay, this person doesn't deserve an explanation because I can't even remember. I just know I did it because he was weird. Probably usually gave me a. It would be like, you give me a weird vibe.
Speaker 3
You said something weird, said something about children that are not like creepy about my children, but said something like, oh, like don't, maybe they want children or you don't want to date someone with children. I don't even. I mean, do you put that on there? I've said stuff about like having an autistic kid and they got really like blacked off and whatnot. And I was like, okay, he obviously isn't interested but doesn't know how to say anything. And I was just like, I barely even talking to you. I don't know. I can sometimes not have the most. I'm very like have trouble with reject rejection in rejecting. So it's hard to say no and be direct and be like, dude, I'm not interested in. I don't like the Dick Pic. I'm too ugly.
Speaker 5
I'll be honest. I don't mind. Oh,
Speaker 3
I'm that low percentage of women that don't mind a dedicated spot. I don't like when it's like, hey, how are you? And then it's just like, here's my Dick. Like how, what kind of finesse does, does he need to do to send you a dick pic?
Speaker 5
When does that welcome? Is it pretty late men decorate? You ever gotten one decorated? Or like with the face, we're like a tourist. I've had somebody in like the Captain Morgan stance and I was like, okay, is your clean? That's one of my. Oh, so more importantly than a dick pic, please send me a picture of your clean house. Yeah. Or what I want to hear about the hell back. You make a bathroom and clean bathrooms. Really? Come on, let's not what turns you on a clean sheet or that you made yourself a dinner. Can you take me? And she's like, send me a picture of the dinner. You made way hotter. You're turned on by someone who. And the ability to take care of yourself. Okay, good. So I had a Manchild. I've had several and it's not fun. It's fun for a little bit. And then you're like, no, nobody wants to be a mother to a man because then you felt like a pedophile and nope. And you know, that's just not, that's not a good feeling. It's not attractive. I'm finding more and more are out there. Like what? I first thought it was like, so like, oh, he's never been married. He's this age. He's never had any kids like that. It's awesome. No or reason. That guy is cool yet. And it's all because of his mom. Oh, blaming the mother.
Speaker 5
His mom helped him. Didn't get
Speaker 3
arrested for stalking me or something. His mom helped him stock you. Yeah, it's like, does she drive him in the car, like how does it aid? Because I was like, okay, you're the grandparent, you didn't do what he did to me. Like, oh, whatever. Yeah, you're still in my kid want to be in my kid's life. I'm cool with that. And he already had an epo against him and I had made it very clear he cannot be there, but we'll come pick you up and we can go to a playground and stuff because she's like, well, I won't have a car. And so, um, she uh, told them where we went. He shows up within five minutes, uh, doesn't let us leave. Basically she calls the cops my dad was going to, but she was like, I got it. He deserves to see his kids.
Speaker 3
And I was like, I asked him not to be here. He was like physically getting in front of me. He got his mom's car that, that's why she didn't have a car. He had her car parked in front of my car and then got out and sat at the bumper so we couldn't get out of her parking spot after I loaded the kids into the car and so the police show up and I go, I have an epo here. It is. I don't want him here. He and he got right in the cop car and I'm like, cool. Second time in a month my kids see their dad being put into the back of a police car was like you like, okay. But uh, yeah. So his mom enables him and doesn't think he has any issues and like is, is enabling the man child behavior
Speaker 5
that's a four year old decision. I'm just going to show up at the pork, like, yeah, like, okay, cool. But it didn't work out to work out for real life consequences. Yeah. So the most, the biggest turn on is a man who can take care of himself and being an adult, I'd leave here. The one, two k are attracted to me because we're nurturers don't understand it. I really like. At first I thought it was, oh, that's so cool. He, you know, he wants to experiences with them,
Speaker 4
me and my kids and no, he just wanted to know mom. Yeah.
Speaker 5
And I can't drink enough to be another person's mom. No, no. There's just not enough alcohol. Sweaty and old in like they are in their own. Yeah. I mean you can at least try to groom. That's true. You know, jurisdiction over that. How many they actually listened to you when you asking them to do things or at least the time.
Speaker 4
Yeah. This one. No, I don't know how many times I've told him man to brush their teeth and take a shower and put on deodorant at the same time. The manchild not gonna lie
Speaker 5
best sex I've ever had. I see. I think that could be. So I don't care. This is like a, a kind of a. This is why the guy is still single because he's getting a lot of good sex with a lot of women. And why would he want to get married? Because I'm hoping to wasn't. And you were also sex he ever had, but I do like, I think it was like pent up and oh I need to perform because she's already been married. She already has kids, like, you know, you're just trying to outdo, outdo everyone else. And it was perfect. That's good motivation. So that's a good one too. We'll have like, hey, you know, I've had a lot of guys before I've been married, you know, we've had a lot of experience so you really need to go whoa. But worked out well. So maybe it's a reframe like okay, this is not the guy that I'm going to be in a relationship with, but this is a good guy to have sex with.
Speaker 4
I, I have a hard time not having the relationship. Yeah, I'm, I am kind of old school like that. I, I can have fun and I can go out when I can, you know, I'm hanging out, but I, I don't want to give it all up to somebody that it's one night. I did that a couple of times and it really was pointless for me. I think I may have only had one one night stand
Speaker 3
in my whole thing. It's usually if I've been with the guy, it's a couple times. Well, you know, Jeff was my failed friends with benefits.
Speaker 5
Well, you know, we tried, we tried. The sex has always been awesome. What can I say? I hope my mom is listening to this. She just gives them a high five next time she to give him a high five. That's how my parents will be happy for me. Oh. My mom
Speaker 3
also was dating, me and her were dating at the same time. Like they knew it was really interesting because we'd have to be like, okay, so I'm going on and take it on this date you have this day and
Speaker 5
because she's my baby, she's my baby
Speaker 3
and there's somebody I'd be like,
Speaker 5
but my mom, I had that day. Why did you make plans where you going? She's like, oh, I forgot and I'm like, I'm the grandma. I get to do that. Well it is my kids so I can't exactly be like you said you were going to watch the kids and have your kid be happy. I'll be like, okay good, so I have to cancel.
Speaker 4
So my parents are totally different because they've been married almost 40 years and there's never been divorced like this. I brought in a whole new set of standards and craziness and, and life. So we've all had to adjust kind of our thinking and that isn't bad. It's just different and life is different and we have to love people even if it's different.
Speaker 3
Wow. Yeah. My parents got divorced after 30 years of marriage so they got divorced when I was 22, so it's only been like six years of them being divorced, but they're good friends and everything. Like they read father's Day. We all went over to my dad's and he cooked dinner and I don't know, he was like, should I offer to help? He seems to happy to be cooking ups all dinner and my mom was there and everything and well I like that. I mean, my parents will be married 40
Speaker 4
years in August and my sister has a baby with no dad. My brother's not married. I'm now divorced for the second time with details. Um, you know, life is hard. It is not, it's not a normal, um, this is how you should do it. This is what happens anymore. Well, yeah, because there's so much. There's so much more freedom and relationships in the sense that you don't have to be locked into something that is really soul sucking the way that it was in our parents' generation or especially the generation. Don't take about like, I think that, but some other people, like my husband's didn't think that was a commitment that they needed to honor. In what way? Um, I think they thought, hey, divorce is easy. Why? Why? Let's just say like, I can do whatever I want. I love her. I mean, both of them still say they love me. Um, but they, I don't. They don't know the meaning of commitment. They didn't want to put in the work that. No.
Speaker 3
Yeah. That's all it comes down to. Right? Because marriage is work. Yeah. It's hard for a day when my issues with my ex started, I was seven months pregnant and I got to a point where I go, I'm exhausted. It's time for you to fight. I've been fighting. It's just if you wanted to make this marriage work, make it work. Um, basically I just want you to be around for Labor then. Then we were done after that. I left him when she was 10 days old. Wow. So maybe that's why it took around. Maybe I did want to fight. I don't, I'm not exactly sure. Can't say well, it's really hard when you're pregnant and you're having a lot of issues because it's the time when you're. Most hormones. Hormones are so vulnerable because you're. I mean, you're carrying a baby and then you're going to have a helpless infant. And that's overwhelming to think all I have to do this alone. I got some advice for men when your wife is in labor. Don't ask her to put it in her butt.
Speaker 5
Put it in her, but put it in her. But that's what I was asking while he was in labor. What are you going to put? Yep. What were you going to put in your mind? His penis while you were in labor? At the hospital. The baby out with it, like, let me see if I can get through. That was a good time to ask. I was just like really? Untrue. That's an interesting finding on that. I don't know. I don't know. His first time he ever asked. I am sitting there crying in pain in bed. I was like, Oh, I'm going to be induced in the morning. I didn't get induced show. As long as you're in great pain. Let me see if I can make you in more pain by sticking my penis in your butt. Like don't do it. Just don't. Nobody's good advice.
Speaker 5
Never tried to do anal sex while your wife. Is it labor guys take that you. Would you think it was a given? Oh No. I thought it was a given and then I learned that it's not a given. You tell him that, yes, this is. Do we. Do we call him and say whatever your future endeavors are, please do not do that. Oh, he has. Is Never gonna work workout. It's okay. He has a vasectomy. He's not going to get anybody pregnant again, but he might try to put his mind to do that. I mean at least they're not an opportune time. Like when you have diarrhea or something.
Speaker 5
Go for it, Bro. Oh, it looks like you got the stomach bug. I got the answer to this head tie. Go ahead. We need his name also because he could be on tinder, the female network on an exit only zone at times that it's just not appropriate. We'll have tie. My brother sent me this article that was like, people with this name always suck at life. The name is Kevin. I'm sorry if your name is Kevin. I'm sure you're doing wonderful. Life. Has a brother named Kevin. Kevin. Except for that. Jeff's brother Kevin, who do suck. I've known now. I have never dated A. Kevin don't, but I know some that rude. I'm sorry. Jeff's brother. I'm sure you're delightful. Just thinks this. Are you single Kevin on tinder? Let's hope not. His wife would be very upset, so not single.
Speaker 5
Figured it out and not on tinder. If you see him on there, they'll let us know. I'm not even on there. I'm so scared. I don't know what to do on there. Just good. I don't know how to swipe left and right. I don't know how I'll end up with some like old man because you were swiping the wrong way. I followed the directions because I was like, I already know how to do this. I use the icons for awhile because I was like, but if I do it wrong and sometimes I did. It was like actually I accidentally super like somebody and I was like, I do not super like you. I do not super super light. So that means you really, really want to bone. I guess I want to. I want to get. I never, they're like, is that what it means? So what did they say when you did that? I think I went and changed it before they could talk to me. I think I don't. Okay. So the prisoner, someone's still like, she totally super liked me, but she hasn't responded. I mean, are you that girl? No. Okay, here you go.
Speaker 5
Let me tell you how it went. So confused. I'm confused right now. I can't get on tinder the first time like I've started on OK cupid where anybody can message you. Anybody. I had a married woman that was pauline was like, so I just want to throw it out there. Me and my husband, thank you. Look delightful, but I see it. I was like, I see you're not into our lifestyle from a woman. Really Nice comp that is implemented to get us down for that. I wasn't upset by it or anything. I just gave a free dinner. Free food. The. That's what all my friends were like. You get to get all these free dinners. Go on every date you can. Even if you're not interested in like,
Speaker 4
that's not me. Like no, I don't want somebody to waste their time. So as I'm old now I am down for the free dinner.
Speaker 5
I can, I can take one for the team and just sit through it. I mean if I go to a bar and it seems like they're coming out of the woodwork
Speaker 4
right now, I didn't even do that. I don't know, they're just sending, coming from, I'd like his facebook old people, old people like people who are really irritate it. No people have dated before, so repeats, repeats, repeats, but no sexual rape. So that's laying. Okay. Alright. So you can accept and, and so things have kind of changed now when I was wanting to date after a divorce, like I had little kids and, and some of the guys that we grew up with, they didn't want little kids. Now they have little kids and I'm like, no, we all have little. Um, I mean my, my baby seven, he can. He's good.
Speaker 5
Yeah. He can wipe his own ass. You want to go back to them? I don't mind saying I don't know
Speaker 4
what little babies. I never thought I would be that. I know I'm old and grouchy now
Speaker 5
and I don't have time for that. I don't want to have coloring books at the table. If I'm going out, I want to just go well with adults. This is our life coloring books at the table. My daughter today, when it's my paint water, I just don't want to start
Speaker 4
over with new kids. Yeah. And that kind of makes me an asshole. Well, but you're right. I mean, the thing is is people need to be direct about that. It's better than my oldest son. He's graduating this year and my baby is seven, so I don't want to start over with kids in diapers. I don't have any kids in diapers. It's wonderful. But you know, I don't. I think that's cute and I'll say, oh, she's so cute. I don't want to do that again. No, I'm done with kids having kids. I'm old. I don't have time for that. I mean like my kids can babysit each other. I don't. Yeah. That's awesome. You know what I mean? Like I don't want to like have to find a sitter and have to do. I don't have time for that. Well
Speaker 5
at least you're like, it's better to be like, I know what I want. I don't want that. Instead of being like, maybe I'll try it and see where it goes. Really good ones
Speaker 4
that want that. They probably would be the best for me. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, one of them is so great and he wants to get married and he has two little kids and the whole time I'm like, oh, he's so great and
Speaker 3
no, no, you just can't do it, but you know what your limits are and you know that you may feel resentful of that and that's, you know that. That's that.
Speaker 4
Yeah. I want to start over. I remember the more compassionate you're setting a boundary that you're not going to do that because if you said, oh, he's so great, I'll just sort of push my boundary with this and there will be things that would come up later in the relationship with that, but he's so great for someone else who wants all of that.
Speaker 3
Yeah,
Speaker 4
and I'm okay. I'm okay to say that. Yeah. I'm not selfish enough to say like, I should have that and no one else should.
Speaker 3
Yeah, you're releasing him into the wild.
Speaker 5
I don't know. At the same time, it's been kind of a while, so I might take one for the. Have a little friends with benefits action anyway, and now that we were talking about the picture and this way. Are you showing us one? Yeah. Oh, I can't see. This was five minutes ago. Like it looks like he uses the bathroom wearing shoes. Everybody's wearing flip flops with
Speaker 4
thing that I need bigger. Sanjay, the bathroom doesn't look very clean. What is that on the rug? I think I need bigger. See Angels was the capture. Oh my gosh. That is so not clever.
Speaker 5
If you're clever tip guys, just the to have a clean rug. Did you notice that? I mean, seriously, look at the rug. You're just like, I have zoomed in to backgrounds. I'm like, okay, it's not looking good for you. I don't like this. The whole thing.
Speaker 3
He doesn't do it. Yeah. Sorry about it.
Speaker 4
Now what you would really would have liked as a picture of him back. You mean
Speaker 5
lead Gen or on a table? Food had come over, made you dinner and then he'd be like, yeah, baby, I'm on my way. Yeah. If somebody like I'm making brisket and be like, all right, time to go get me stuff. Chris put my cute dress on and I'm not wearing no underwear because my role, my role when I went to Vegas, I'm not wearing a Bra, I'm not wearing pants and I didn't. And then I got the stomach flu or something and that's when I got. I had a stomach bug. I was, you weren't wearing it. I was like, no. I got a stomach bug and the guy
Speaker 3
that went with us. That might be your person. Yeah, he's my person. They're talking. They're talking a lot in the middle of the night? Yeah, at two in the morning and it's okay if he send you naked pictures. No, it's fine. He can do it. And you liked that? I'm cool with it. I mean the way I see it is better to have a
Speaker 6
say. Did this phenomenon of the Dick pics happened anytime before smartphones
Speaker 5
did this ever happened? I've seen him on Webcam
Speaker 6
for that. I mean like where they had to go and develop them.
Speaker 5
I'm doing well. I'm not that old. The fourth grade you get to us, I'm trying to think when I first
Speaker 3
got like a solid dick on solid solid on like a computer or something like that. It was probably like 16 Webcam type thing and that's 2006. So I wonder now with three d printing, printing, talking about a solid.
Speaker 5
Are you talking about dildos? Talking about three d printing, you just make a copy of something and it comes up three t yeah, I mean you could use to copy their butts like can you do that for funsies? I wasn't hoping anyone was getting off on that. I need to rethink my picture button. Thought that was just just for funsies. Now I need to rethink that
Speaker 6
in any girl talk. Have you guys ever got together and been like, you know, I just didn't know it was gonna last and it was gonna work out, but he then sent me a dick pic and then you're like, oh,
Speaker 5
never happened. Never solidified my relationship. It's never been like,
Speaker 3
yes, this is happening now I got to see your penis and I'm on my phone.
Speaker 5
No, no, no.
Speaker 6
Anticipate like 60 years from now it's going to be like so grandma
Speaker 5
hell exactly. Killed the deal that ever happened on the tip of his penis when I got proposed to at Mcdonald's guys. So I don't have any more wine so I can drink.
Speaker 3
It was an inside joke. I can't. I can at least say that. I always made jokes that like, look at that Mcdonald's Gazebo. It's so beautiful. We should. I bet people get proposed there all the time and she did not mean that he thought that he thought she thought that was cool. Yeah.
Speaker 5
I had found the readings to tell everyone his name so they don't swipe for him on 10. Yeah. You have been with the unibrow. He isn't around to two caterpillars making love. I mean if he would maintain it, cool. But I'd have to sit there and be like, we're going to get this taken care of. Just do it late man. Child grandchild. I got in touch. Bye.
Speaker 6
Is there any anything out there online that's a literally just a female network where you could all get together and say, this is this guy. This is what he did and just put them on the network, but only females can get to this. I don't think so. I don't know.
Speaker 5
We should make like a this person with their picture because you know, I like to call people out so it'd be like one guy I saw to be like, this person's bad now and stuff and telling people stuff. So I don't know if that's really for guys. Oh, they go and do that with women. It's like there's that double standard that like. And I'm like, well how would women feel about this? Whenever I think about doing that for a man, you know, how would you feel? I don't think you can say like, I think you could say, hey, he said this to me and that's kind of inappropriate. Like, oh, well let's go back to my apartment at now. No one wants to go back to your apartment when we just met. So like, I'm not going to your hot tub. Who Cares? All the abuse I went through.
Speaker 5
I found the hot tub is very, very big thing for older single. I've never gotten it into a hot tub with a guy. I think the last time I was an a hot, besides my husband that I had before. That was I was 10. Oh yeah. I get it out to the once a week and I'm not even currently you're being asked to the hot. I'm not even doing anything. I'm not even trying to like see someone or hanging out with someone. I, I get a text like, hey, let's go to the hot tub invitations. I mean it's just a random. Somebody new or before I was married for like on facebook or like, Oh hey, what are you doing it time to go to the hot tub. Is that code for. Is that like Netflix and chill? I, I did Google because I was like, I don't know.
Speaker 5
Is it actually a tub of water or like. No, it's still just a tub of hot water. Not Code for anything that I could find. That's a single male friend who just got divorced and he is getting a hot tub is a cute little kids. It might be good for your back. Get some back pains. I got to get the staff. That's what we talk about when we're close to 40, like let's get in the hot tub because I have back pain. I'm not close and that's not even nerdy. Higher Twenty five, so we're good. Close in the dating. They were like, Hey, let's go out. Okay. All right. I'm fine. I'm good at bars. I like to drink. I'm at 1130. What?
Speaker 5
Start over at 1130. I don't have time for that. I'm not standing up and I've been asleep for like two hours. I'll put my kids to bed at seven for a reason. The only time I'm up at that, that hour is because I'm watching like criminal minds on marathon been leaving. You can't stop it because you have to help them out because I have to tell them this is gonna happen because I've seen it 27 times. I need you. I have a friend that she's like, pants off. I'm not doing anything and I'll text her sometimes. Are you pants off yet? Do you want to come do something? I mean, I'm okay to like plan it. Like, Oh hey, we're going to go to dinner and then go, I'm okay to stay out, but if you're calling me at 11:00 saying, Hey, get ready. Hey, I've had a like after midnight I'm in bed. Hey, I'll buy you a drink. I'm like, you're all by myself. I'll go make myself a drink. Thanks. That's cool.
Speaker 5
I'm not on tinder. Did he see that? Like, oh, we want to do this. He said, no. He's like, next time I'm like, okay. I saying I would get called. I wouldn't actually a guy I ended up dating for a year. He did, he was, he was just, he just offered and then was like, okay. And he wasn't creepy about. It was just like, I'm out with friends if you want to come join. And I was like, ah, it might be awkward for the first time meeting if I'm just like some weird person shows up. And then we eventually did go meet up and have a drink and stuff and hit it off for a little while and then I realized he was a Manchild. So how long did it take to realize that someone is 18 months, 18 months. So once limerence is over, once the COC, the hormone cocktail dies down, the sex was still fantastic.
Speaker 5
It's hard to give that up. It really is. It really is. And didn't think I was like that before I. But now why was that? Why did I even bring it up? Who Cares? I didn't have to live with them. Who Cares? I shouldn't have just, I shouldn't have said anything guys. There is some merit in the whole like living apart but being in a relationship thing because you don't have to deal with any of that other stuff, but you still get the good parts. You left your socks issue? They do when they're there yearly. Okay. He's leaving tomorrow carelessly. I don't know that at this point in my life that I could live with someone ever. I have to take care of my mother sometimes I'm cook her meals all the time to clean the house and stuff and I'm just like, I am so ready to not be taking care of another adult because I did that for so long, so I like to do that part.
Speaker 5
Like I want to have him over and cook and eat and do whatever I need to do, but then I'm fine with him leaving. Oh, he better pitches like after he needs to do, I'm going to take by you. You're like, okay, if I cook somebody a meal, I kind of hope they at least like help clean up a little. I don't even care. It's like, it depends. It depends on the dynamic. Like if it's like you're a guest for a little bit. Okay, cool. Whatever. But I remember the guy that I dated for awhile when he spent the night and he woke up, he's like, what would you like for breakfast? And I go, are you cocaine? Oh my goodness. Cook. Yeah. He would cook meals. He would like if he was over, he usually would cook the meals. He cooked breakfast. What happened? Why did you dump him? Because he was lazy. He was okay. He became homeless and jobless and I was done. That's never good. But he could. Yeah, I can cook too well. And you're going to be jobless if you don't go look for a job and you can cook.
Speaker 5
So another round.
Speaker 5
Okay. So what about the guy now he cooks? Does he make you breakfast? Well, he lives in Phoenix. I know that just kind of goes with your theory because it keeps the love alive. It's not, it's not like 18 hours. It was just here last week and I'm going out next month. And so tell us what's happening. He was going to listen. So I'm just like, oh, tell me about his eyes and it. And you liked the pictures? I'm cool. Yeah, you okay? Here's my Dick Pics. Sending him pictures and dirty talking and then yeah. Okay. So like full on sex. He's what I was doing last night and then. Oh, that tells me that this morning. Just Cindy, because that doesn't. No, no, no. Random Dick pics. Nix that. If you're a sexting, do it because to me that says, I'm turned you on enough that your penis is erect going meade, and I am excited about that.
Speaker 5
So you're turned on by turning him on. I'm a pleaser for that. That is true about a lot of women. I find that for myself too, that like when I know that I'm turning him on, I feel more turned on, so that's what turns me on. That's what gets me going is the fact that he's turned on by me. See, my Dick pic thing is not so weird. Now is it? Okay. So that makes more sense. Like the fact that it sent to you because he's like, this is, this is what happened kind of thing. Not just like, oh, hey. Yeah, no, no, no. You don't my sandal. So yours was awful. That was unacceptable. I had. Yeah. No, it almost needs another word after you're in the relationship. I guess it's like this sexy thing, Dick pic thing. Okay. I don't really think that.
Speaker 5
Yeah. Like it's. It's foreplay. Yeah. Oh yeah. For the next month. It's just millennial foreplay foreplay because you're not actually, because we don't communicate with text, just text each other pictures of our body parts instead of like being in the same room. I'm in the living room and I'm texting. Just totally done that. The other room story, once my oled spitter smartphones down, good advice. There's some more solid advice over here. The photos down and actually bone people. I um, my ex bought me like a nice little lingerie thing after I had my first kid because he's like, I want you to feel sexy again. This was a good thing he did and he wasn't all terrible, so there you go. But then, so one day I was like, all right, jude taken a nap. I'm going to just slide this on. And I go downstairs and I start picking up toys and he's playing a video game and he's, he looks up and he goes, so do you want to have sex or something?
Speaker 5
And I go, no, I just want to pick up toys and sexy lingerie. I was like, fuck you, I'm going upstairs. He was trying to get consent. Hope. I mean, I thought wearing lace seethrough thing was you were trying to give him, sending a message data. We don't pick up messages. They don't. They really applied. That is that you have to be like, I want the sex, please. Thank you. Sex picture from the editor. And then he knew. Then finally they did it and it sometimes you have to just be like, um, it's in fact I've scheduled sex into our google shared google calendar before. Just how do you do that? Well, we just put it in as an event. What if you feel bloated?
Speaker 5
Hey, if the schedule you're getting yourself but you're getting yourself revved up the whole time if you put it on the schedule, you know. So if I put on the schedule the day before, um, I'm probably going to have drains about sex that night before because I'm like, yeah, I'm excited about having sex. And then I'm thinking about it as I'm working out and I'm like sending him a text about it. And so going back to the foreplay, you know, like there is some sexiness and scheduling sex for some of those cds sent so sexy with on the schedule babies. So you have to do that when you're married now? Yeah, because it's like when, when she has to be like he works at home and so it's like okay, she is in school for three hours, let's do it. We have this window so there has to be there preparing time. And I've been like
Speaker 3
okay, time for video games to my son and I'm like, the other one's taken a nap for lock the door.
Speaker 5
Oh yeah. We have meetings a lot where it's telling me that we're having a meeting in the other room and the door's going to be locked and you could be in charge of the TV. And she's like, Ooh. The one time I forgot to lock the door, my son came in with a flashlight and I was like, I was like, how? How did you know? My son is actually accidentally sent a nude pic to somebody to what? He was three. So tell me the story. This is hilarious. My Nude picture to a guy I had, we had agreed to stop talking to him again because he finally saw the goods. I'm sorry, my three year old son. So just like whatever. I totally want to delete, delete, delete. Oh Gosh. I do have one
Speaker 3
fun creep. A tinder was OK cupid story. But. So we started talking and then um, I made the big mistake to give him my number and he was texting me like I believe if I'm like the woman woman, like if I want to have sex, she's going to have sex with me. You can't say no. And the same goes for me. And I was like,
Speaker 5
and I was like, no, kind of
Speaker 3
like, no, I'm not interested in that. That sounds kind like, been there, done that. And then, uh, he uh, was like a. If you want me to take you on a good date, you need to send me nudes and I want, I want pictures of your pussy. I want pictures of your tips that if you send pictures of your cat then that would be my cat. Just Google images. Here's my pussy. And then like the little like the pig with the little nursing tittles adheres to my tits and he was like, but if you don't send it, I'm not going to go all out for a date. And he's like, but I'll go pits sit and spin like a couple hundreds of bucks on a first date if I get these pictures. I was like, no, not interested. And I blocked his number. That's one of those ghosts military go.
Speaker 3
There's a good example. Say that that's definitely he does not deserve closure. And then what? He text me from another number and then that's when I called him and I was like, dude, I'm not interested. This is basically what you said, this is how I perceived it and I don't want that. And I was like, I'm done. And he still kept trying. And then when I finally got the hint, he sent me a nasty thing saying like, you're a piece of shit. You live with your mom, you have kids, nobody's gonna want to do that. You have to put out more effort by sending nudes and stuff. And I'm like, wow, that's so abusive. And I was like, good luck to you pulling all the container or OK cupid. I mean, people are scary on there. So now I've got friends like the way I met. I'm the guy I'm talking to now. No. Yes, let's go back to that. It's wonderful. The eyes all around. I met him through friends, like I liked that I was going to vegas as I was going to be a fifth wheel with a couple friends and then a one are they invited their friends. Y'All were coupled together.
Speaker 3
We should talk so we can like not be so awkward whenever we, uh, go to Vegas. And it went very well for us because we decided we would just share a bed and a when I had is cheaper. But yeah, it was. I mean I pay for it, but then it's cuddly. I, I tried and now and I had that stomach bug and guess who took care of me? Oh Wow. Hey, I took care of you through the stomach. But I told him to go. That is a huge effort to take care of her. When she said that he has twins. Oh, I'm going, we're going to twins. How we're going to get them. Any Fan? There'll be four on this one has little. No, it's all. It's all blending for. Okay. I got a five year old and a two year old and two fours.
Speaker 3
Hey, we're going to get these kids done. Done. Well, here's the thing that they're all right there and you get all that you spin for all the kids, right? The thing is 17 and then starting over with a 18 month old. I, I don't have that kind of energy. Sorry I'm over that. I'm still sleep through the night. I mean I do some days, well I don't sleep through the night but not because of my kids just because I'm like, oh alright, so much to do and this, this and this and yeah. But no, starting over like that makes me tired thinking about it right now I'm just like, I don't, I can't have, I just can't bring myself to bring other kids in the world when I have a special needs kid. I'm just like, that takes a lot of focus, but I can take on like I, I'm good with kids.
Speaker 3
I think I'm okay with kids. You're awesome with kids. Like they trust me to babysit their daughter and I, I work with kids a couple hours a day and taking on some more like after that and stuff. So yeah, I've thought about timing. Yeah, it's, I'm young enough y'all cheese. I don't want to be like chewing and like, oh I can start this. No, not for the sound. I can scarf thing. So one to meet the cheats. I ordered the appetizers so you can look at them. They look so low. Deselect delicious drinking wine. Who Cares? You may have heard me go up a few times. That just proves to you that we are in fact drinking one. We are here. We are absolutely farinas winery in grapevine on main street set or mini awesome winery. Have Spaghetti Pizza. I'd had it before we get any pizza here.
Speaker 3
Yeah, they have good. My kids really liked it and I was stealing it from them to see what it was like. What is it? Pizza Spaghetti on top of it. I thought about ordering the artichoke and Italian sausage mix. Delicious. I mean that's what we normally get. I have a good time and it was just what are we doing? And they're good people. They are. I had my Bachelorette party here. Real points at the end, you know, that's where you have to go with that girl right there. He started off highbrow though for Rita's and then after, after the wine we made a biker bar. That's where we go after beer. Kickball is a biker bar. Oh wait, just a little scary. I've never seen old men bike or
Speaker 5
festive whites are. Well, I've only been. Last time I was there with my Bachelorette party and I don't remember throwing up in the bushes outside in the parking lot. They would never know. Nobody knew. Yeah. One time. Whenever we were like 16, my brother and I were there because they was the only place you could buy cigarettes under aged. So my brother was buying cigarettes and I was out in the car by myself and some man peed right for me or terry would just go in there and like main street days. Great Finesse Hala Lou. Yeah. Yeah. Your cigarette and you could sneak through integrate fest or. I did that really for our 10 year class reunion. I did the back way because why would I pay for that? Why would I pay to get in there? I don't know if they're doing a reunion. I guess they don't like me if they are.
Speaker 5
I don't know. I didn't go to our last high school reunion either because they didn't even like have a family thing and I was like, hello, we're old now. We have families. I'm not going to the glass cactus. I'm sorry. Thank you. Just like I wasn't going to pay to get into. We'll wait for $35 when I can just walk in the back door and we went back to that thing. Now some people like going through the back but not realized what my have happened. Sorry about that. I didn't mean to say that while you were drinking and she's a score. I don't want the alcohol by waiting and I people. What I was going to say was I didn't get to have a Bachelorette party because I felt bad because my guy was married. I married a, broke his femur at his bachelor party.
Speaker 5
I was 19 so I couldn't take. She couldn't go to bars and then the other one, who cares? We let's have a Bachelorette party doing a divorce party of another bachelor party. I've had a divorce party and they are fun. I'm growing. I'm inviting like everybody. I'm going to like. All right guys. I'll let you know. Divorce Party in hopes swipe left. Dick Pics. Welcome. We're gonna all. Oh, you know, we can make a paper out of those things out of Dick Pics and then we beat that thing down. Guys beat it. That is good. So many words right there. I got this. I'm trying to refrain. I gotTa Confetti thing. That's like middle fingers that I just want to throw at my ex as we get divorced. Be like, we are divorced. Fuck, you know, you just egg egg him or like doing shit. I want a banner, you know like money.
Speaker 5
I got the confetti, a little Baggie of confetti I already have. I got for free. He already has it. Okay, well then do it. It's okay to just put it on his own. He lives here or you have to travel for him. He lives here. You moved here, gets in it too close to you. A heinous 20 to 30 minutes away. It kind of freaks me out. Okay, well east says not down the street. Yeah. I had one who wanted to live down the street. Know why he couldn't afford our area. That's good to know. I put it like he's a, he's a waiter. A waiter. What's Dave and buster's waiter? Not like a high brow waiter will, if that makes good money being waiters. They like know where they need to work and like bartending and stuff. I've heard people make making like 60 plus thousand doing that.
Speaker 5
He doesn't want to make good money because then you'd have to pay me more child support. He's already planning. He's clever. Clever little sword. Yes, he wants to reduce it $50 because he got a. Then put the address out there so we can. For Kim to sprinkle your little desk. Let's go. What? What does that. Who sings that song about slashing his tires and Carrie underwood. Let's go after Tara know someone. She's about six, two ish. Oh, I'll beat you. I'll beat anybody up for you. Hope that is a friend here. Don't. I thought about texting her. Is She scared? She was on the group. She'll come. She's the nicest person. She's just big. It looks scary, but she told me a guy smacked her ass and she beat her up, but she's super sweet and gentle. Someone smacked my ass. I'm not going to beat them up. I'm old. I liked the attendance like aspects or we'll not a bar when I was about 21. Yeah, because it was before I was engaged at the time and like four years ago, back in the day seven, five and seven is a big deal because I'm sitting there talking
Speaker 3
friends and somebody smacked my ass and I got. It was my friend just being silly and I was like, did you know, and I was like, this big group of guys
Speaker 5
broke. I'm like, Hey, come back here and buy me a drink. That beauty doesn't come from. Did you just turn around? And the guys were like, oh my God, she's a prostitute. She's way too hot.
Speaker 3
Let me prove how weird I am. Later I was at the bar and this guy comes up to my guy friend that were. I was talking to put his arm around him. It's like, do you like to accounting? And I was like, what kind of questions that. I was like, do you know him? And he's like, no. So I go,
Speaker 5
the guy walked off, I gave him a nurple. What's a nurple where you twist his nipples? Purple nurple just randomly twisted. A guy that couldn't be list that welcome Mike. If you touch me besides his little nice smack on the ass and then we're, we're not, we're done. Walked away. So this is a good takeaway is that you have a nice snack on the ass. Do nurple chain. I was 21 days, this was the first time I went to a bar and I had already been assaulted. Dammit. She was just. She was spreading the love, not the one I had before. I'm the first official time because she was 21, so she had not been to one before. I had known it was 21. I was a very interesting time for. Oh No.
Speaker 3
Before I moved down here I probably went to about four or five bars and when I moved down here I was almost 26. You were in Kansas City. Kansas city has a pretty good bar scene I guess. Have you been.
Speaker 5
Who knew you were born there? We didn't know we could have bonded on this first year. I've known you
Speaker 3
Oberlin. I was Smithville. That's where I grew up. Yup. Now see Kansas City, Missouri side north of the river. You know that term? When I say that
Speaker 5
we lived right over there. Which one side of the railroad tracks you live on?
Speaker 3
North main south. Small town. One hundred and 40 people. In my graduating class we had, what, eight 80 10. We got to watch a slideshow with everybody at our graduation. That's how small Wall from your. From kindergarten all the way through and only lasted five minutes. Basically. We had rules to at the graduation. You can clap too much. I was like, really? Don't want to be too festive at graduation. It's only high school guys. Proud of you. So I have a question. If you all could share what you wish that guys would know, what would you tell them? Shit, what would you want them to know? Yeah, it's a hard one. Well, I do hear that it's very important for, you know, how to cook and take care of yourself and don't send a dick pic with a dirty rug. I mean that is important.
Speaker 4
I, I do like the cooking, like take care of yourself, but I also like the fun part of random pictures. I don't want that all the time, but I liked the spontaneity of, of that
Speaker 3
to be able to be fun but also be responsible.
Speaker 4
Yeah. I think some are missing that it's either fun, like all in fun and Oh, you can't just go have a drink. It's
Speaker 3
balls to the walls,
Speaker 4
let's get, let's get shit faced instead of just like, Oh hey, let's go have a drink. Like grow up a little bit.
Speaker 3
And these are people our age. I mean in their close to being 40. Yeah. So we've had, we've had time. They've had time to have fun on a first date. I don't like to get drunk. That was like, what I need to get drunk on my first week triggers you. I need a lie. I accidentally got drunk on one first date and that's because the waiter heard news like misheard me. I was like, I don't want another. Just bring me water. He brought me another drink. I was like, I can't waste this money. Go. You can't be wasteful. You can't. You can't have a long island iced tea because that was what I was drinking that night and it was my third. So you go, well that's wrong.
Speaker 3
Yeah. My advice is when you get into a relationship, respect that there's a life outside of the relationship. Um, my ex got mad because I was doing things with friends, but he wouldn't make plans with me. And stuff like that. It's like I'm a single mom, so for me it's like I will make plans with other people, but they have to initiate because my priority is always going to be my children until I enter into a really serious relationship because I know at some point in a relationship you have to put that before the kids in order for it to survive. That's what I've heard. At least that's what I've heard in the relationship worlds. I'm kind of a mess right now. I'll get stable one day,
Speaker 4
but I think that comes with time. Knowing your priorities shift in the relationship and you know at the beginning when you're dating, being a single mom, your of course your kids are going to be the priority and that can start to balance more as the relationship becomes more important. You can't make that the most important thing right away. Yeah,
Speaker 3
exactly. It was it stressful. When somebody thinks like to me, I was like, I don't. I'm not trying to hurt you or anything. I just am living my life and whatnot. And if that bothers you, I'm sorry. Maybe you should invite me to come over and hang out more or whatever, but I also enjoy having my time with my friends because in my last with my marriage it was, he was rude to my friends and I was unable to, um, really, I didn't feel comfortable having them over and I wasn't comfortable leaving him alone with my child, so I was just kind of stuck. So I, after I got left him, I was like, who am I? I had to discover who I was as a person opposed to who I was as a mother. And so that's been my last adventure for the past two and a half year. Two and a half years is realizing I'm not just a mother, but I'm also a friend. I'm also. So when you actually do that, you have to remind yourself of that.
Speaker 4
Is it really hard to do that? But you can't wait all this time and then. And then get back into reminding, remembering that you are a woman, you do have needs or you are a friend, you are this, you have to do that from day one. Yes. Yeah. And it's a constant journey, even if you're married and not have to do it, every woman has to do that. That
Speaker 3
and it's. And I'm actually getting to that place where I'm like, okay, it's okay. I used to have a lot of guilt leaving my children for a couple hours and now I'm like, it's okay. I need my break. I need it today. I was just like, I need to get away from this because I have yelled about, get what was the subject today? Drinking, drinking, drinking, paint, water. It was water. It was like she was doing the little watercolors and look delicious. It was colored water. Maybe she used my mainly green and she had a green mustache and I was like, oh my gosh, I just go to make you lunch and this is what you do is like, I try, I try so hard. Is that the whole time?
Speaker 3
That's all good advice. Yes, it is. Good food for thought. I, I, sometimes I can be very wise. Wise. Beyond your years. I had been told I have an old soul since I was very young. Do you have old soul? Yeah, I do. I have my fun energetic, fun side, but there's also the old soul in me and stuff like that. Yeah. Which is awesome that I couldn't connect with anybody is how my friends have put it. Like, Oh, you're that fun friend that you can be with the introvert or extrovert because I'm at that fence. No, I'm just see asshole, so I'm okay with that. That's how. That's how you make friends. Like you just know your strengths and weaknesses. I'll just tell it like it is and in relationships too, right? I'm kind of, I'm getting there. Well you all. Thank you so much for coming into the very first one with wines, a backstage pass into a woman's mind and I'm looking forward to the next one.
Speaker 3
Hopefully you'll both be able to join again. We will. We're going to try another winery next time, so I'll keep you posted. We're going to do some winery hopping. Yay. I will. I will make sure I can. I'm not make that time tender. You need to know what's happening. We want to know what's happening with mystery man from Vegas, but he says the next one is like July 10th, July 22nd to see him. But okay. Alright. Well we might need to say some of the pictures. I don't know. I've got to text messages from him saying, Oh already Marco Polo. What's this? Oh, it's, oh you have to get the Marco Polo App like snapchat, but you don't erase the videos. So it's a video message and it's an APP. I need that in my life and I actually use it with my girlfriends to stay in touch. But I have sent some videos to use it. Yes. From the next room, from my college days. This is our last story are uh, so I was with this guy for like we were started dating in high school and then he went off to college three hours away and so we would video chat and stuff and he was jerking off and it all right on his penis. And the camera froze as guys are like little.
Speaker 5
And I was just like cracking up and he didn't like it, but I don't think anyone enjoys being. But could you really help it if that's what it. It's like watching a train wreck in the video. You can't stop watching it, I guess. I don't know if I've done video thing since then because I was like, I don't want to. Yeah. So this is not live video though. You just like take a video of yourself and you send it like a text, but it's a video. There we go. I can take another little tip in to do that after this nice little message on facebook. Like, Hey, just in case I ever at that point again do it this way. I am friends with just some advice. Him and my brother are frat brothers in the frat brothers, man united. I probably told him, because I tell him my brother needs to know this about his friends,
Speaker 3
my ex husband, his frat brothers with those two with my brother and my ex boyfriend. That's how I know him. And Oh, it's all warm. They were nerdy, nerdy. Fred.
Speaker 5
Was it like, this is why you're to play with the big one fun, delicious mistake. Next time. Go for the six will help you out. Well, I'm spoken swiping until you have. Don't. I haven't heard tinder and over a year and a half over a year ago,
Speaker 3
I haven't had tinder and all that stuff. I, I, she's quit cold Turkey. Quit it because you'd like your person. I like my. Well, yeah, I met my. I started talking to my person in April. What if he's talking to someone else? He's not. How do you know you don't live there? She's just trusting him. I'm trusting you. Next time. This is called trust. It's called investment. Okay? Believe me. Trust is a choice. It know, like I know how to.
Speaker 5
Okay. Bye Bye. Y'All. Wait until the next one to find out. Can she trust him or not? Cliffhanger.dot dot.
Speaker 3
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Speaker 1
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